[00:00:02] Speaker A: Welcome to the Emerging Minds Podcast.
[00:00:07] Speaker B: Hi, I'm Nicole Rollbush and welcome to the Emerging Minds Podcast.
Before we start today's episode, we would like to pay respect to the traditional custodians of the land on which this podcast was recorded, the Kaurna people of the Adelaide Plains. We also pay respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples, their ancestors and elders past, present and emerging from the different first nations across.
Today's episode is part two of a two part series in which guest host Nadia Rossi from the Emerging Minds Families podcast speaks with Dr. Ben Lohmeier and Amber Brock Fable.
Amber is the founder of the South Australian Youth Forum and Ben is a Senior Lecturer in Social Policy within the College of Education Psychology and Social Work at Flinders University.
If you haven't had the chance to listen to part one yet, we recommend you take the time to listen to our episode. How is loneliness impacting young people in Australia?
In today's conversation, Amber and Ben continue to share the findings from their co designed study on loneliness and its relationship to bullying. They discussed the implications of their findings for the wellbeing of young people and some of the steps both families and practitioners can take to best support them.
Let's hear again from Nadia, Ben and Amber.
[00:01:29] Speaker A: I wanted to ask about the main themes that came out of the study around what young people said they needed and what kind of support did they feel would help when experiencing bullying or loneliness.
[00:01:40] Speaker C: There again are lots of different little things and I think there's more to be done to explore them but some of them we've already talked about, so having a space for retreat is really important, whether it be a Zen den or other ones. It's that idea that loneliness isn't just wanting more connections, it can be feeling overwhelmed or unwanted connections and so a retreat from that can be really useful. The other thing we've talked about is the importance of those positive connections and I think that's really important in the school based study. But in the early findings, early kind of initial things that seem to be coming out of the youth centres. One a lot of the young people talk very positively about the people who work there, the workers and their relationships that they have with them. They're often mentioned as the person that makes a difference.
That seems to be very clear things to do to, to support young people to, to address loneliness. But there's something else as well that I think you were talking to before is the, the element of choice or agency in the youth centers, like they go there out of choice and they, they get some choice about what to do when they're there. But, Amber, you also talked about how your experience of. Of talking about this idea of loneliness was in itself helpful. And so I often what's great about this project is the centrality of youth participation and young people's ownership of it is part of why it works. It's addressing loneliness by talking about it, but also by there being opportunities to express agency and to do something about it.
[00:03:13] Speaker D: Yeah. And building on your point, Ben is listening to young people when they come to you with a problem or a report they've made, but also spending the time to understand loneliness from young people's perspectives within schools, within youth centres and youth spaces is really important. And that working with and not working for is really critical.
[00:03:37] Speaker A: I think that's so important.
I think it's really easy to brush over things or not really take the time and the busyness of a day to maybe realise when your young person might be trying to explain something to you or starting a conversation. We always talk about maybe go for a car ride together, because facing each other can be really intimidating for a young person. So go for a car ride or go for a walk and take some time to kind of allow and leave space for a conversation with your young person that they might be trying to have with you. Amber, following on from that, did the young people you spoke with mention anything that doesn't help them, that schools or adults in their lives have tried but doesn't resonate with them?
[00:04:19] Speaker D: I think in those early stages when we were working with the SA Youth Forum and having really kind of open, vulnerable conversations around loneliness and our young people really being honest about where they feel lonely was a testament to the fact that the forum was a safe spot. But also the young people weren't in school together. So I think we had some conversations around how this research would go with a group of your peers at school and a lot of young people saying that they would lie or not be honest at all and really make stuff up so that there will be no chance of, like, the bullies making more fun of me or me looking even more different than I am. And so I think bringing together young people from all these different schools and experiences and ways of life for those first few stages was critical to our understanding of how we create safe spaces to talk about such a sensitive, vulnerable topic.
And also then I guess that created, when we were applying this to a school and understanding, like, what school to kind of apply that to, with the knowledge that not all schools facilitate safe spaces for young People, to be honest, is really kind of putting in the time to get to know the young people.
So it wasn't just straight up focus group and like tell me where you're lonely and this and that and tell me your stories. And I'm just a random researcher coming to tell like ask you all this stuff. We had quite a few sessions with the same group of young people and really by the end of it had the real deep connections and stories around their experiences. But another key element was the fact that our young people, myself and another co researcher, Abby Wilkinson, we were 18 and 19 at the time and of being co researchers with Ben.
So we were brought along to facilitate these focus groups and we had about two or three young people kind of each. And what was really special is that we had our own experiences of loneliness and. And when they shared their stories, it wasn't too different to what we felt as well. So we could kind of really bounce off each other. It wasn't just a person that doesn't get it. Ben. Ben gets it too. But like, you know, like it was.
[00:06:44] Speaker C: Even though I'm old.
[00:06:44] Speaker D: Ye.
[00:06:46] Speaker A: You can take that. You know, we've all. Everyone's experienced loneliness and bullying to certain degrees. Like you're saying. I think it's just about taking that time and building that trust and that relationship with young people and sharing stories where age appropriate so that they can connect with you. It's about fostering that connection.
[00:07:04] Speaker D: Yes. And researchers like Ben trusting 18 and 19 year olds to be part of it. Even if I don't turn on the recording for half of it.
[00:07:13] Speaker C: But still I wasn't gonna bring that up.
[00:07:15] Speaker D: I brought it up. But still trusting to have those conversations is really important.
[00:07:20] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:07:21] Speaker A: But then brings across a true co design.
[00:07:24] Speaker C: Yeah. That's been an important feature of this. Is that as much as is possible tried to bring young people into each stage of it. So the design component of absolutely co researchers, so that data collection element of it, we brought the data, initial kind of analysis of it back to the group and said well, what do you think of this? It's been really fun to find out bits that I really don't understand. And this group of would read out.
[00:07:48] Speaker D: Like quotes and be like what does this mean for you guys? And have this discussion. It was really great.
[00:07:52] Speaker C: Yeah. And then trying to think about things like co authoring and publishing together. So Amber's also a couple of different papers with us now as well. Which is amazing but also always really tricky at different stages as well. Amber's had incredible Staying power with this project, while very reasonably other young people have been like, I've kind of, I'm done for this bit. You know, I think I've done my bit and I'm going to move on. So there's lots of parts to that, I think, that have worked well and other bits that are always just going to be a little bit challenging. There's a few things that I think I just wanted to pick up on that we've been talking about, which I think are important. One was, you know, what's really important for parents, and I really want to acknowledge the bit that you were talking about, which is how busy parent life is like it giving the idea of just listen to your young person and be like, but when, like, when will I have time for that in my week? And maybe it's the drive, you know, that's a really good example, but can't be understated how important that is. Like that time is critical for hearing, listening, understanding and taking seriously as well. Like, one of the biggest things in bullying research is if your child comes and tells you that they're being bullied, you just take that seriously and you listen to that and you take action on it and you work with them to take action as well. It's. We've talked a lot about co design, but working together collaboratively at all of these stages is important. If you're a young person who talks about being bullied, ask them what they want you to do about it, and it might be nothing, I just want you to hear me. Or it might be, yeah, I actually want to do something, but I don't know what it is. So work with them to say, okay, who should we talk to?
What do you want to have come out of it? Who do you want included? Who do you not want included? Where would. What sort of solution works for you? All those things I think are really important as compared to the opposite, which is some of the conversations we've had where things have been done for young people or to them or that's not clear. So one of the things I remember being talked about as unhelpful was going to see someone like a counsellor and then not knowing if that counsellor was going to tell your parents or not. Right. And a lot of it is kind of just good practice, but they do seem to have an important impact.
[00:09:50] Speaker A: That's really good. Yes. I was thinking about the ways that young people want their parents to or need their parents to respond, and then also how they want their parents to communicate with the school. I think that's a really big question, you know, and just sitting down and asking them is just so important.
Amber, was there anything the young people in the study mentioned about the ways they would want their families to communicate with their school?
[00:10:17] Speaker D: I don't think explicitly, but I think our study can highlight advocating with your school as. As a partner rather than a system that's failing my child, perhaps. And yeah, I guess Ben's kind of talked about it a bit around addressing bullying through the resources available and the good research and tools can really help around reducing isolation and loneliness as well. But I guess this, this research is just an eye opener of the lack of research around loneliness and loneliness with the unique lens of young people in schools. And I guess it's just the start. So we're keen to see what happens next.
[00:11:03] Speaker A: I think that was so important, what you mentioned about being in a partnership with the school you're going through, you know, potentially from reception or foundation, the begin to even high school, potentially with the one school. So I think that's so important to remind our listeners that we can be in partnership with the school and how beneficial that can be.
I was wondering if you had any advice for practitioners, whether in schools or in the community, on what they could do to better support children and young people around the issues of bullying and loneliness.
[00:11:39] Speaker C: Some of the things we've already discussed are kind of lead us to think about what are the implications for practitioners? So how can we set up retreat spaces is a good example. We talked about it as a physical design feature and a room set aside for it. But lots of schools are thinking about how they can create little pockets for that in their classrooms as well. Like, so can you set up a corner of the classroom that can be, you know, a few dozen pillows or a small tent or something like that, that can be a retreat space. So if you're a teacher in a school, can you do that? If you are a youth worker or a wellbeing person in a school, you know, we've talked about the importance of those relationships and for many practitioners, that's already central and core to what they do. So it's nice to. To reinforce the importance of that. They're the things that we want to continue to invest in, but acknowledge that those also get squeezed out. Right? Like we, we have these schools where we've increased pressure on them all the time. There's more and more learning requirements, but also wellbeing supports expected of schools. And then we think about youth services and the way they're Funded and offered. And it's very much about certain kinds of quantitative outcomes that we're looking for. Number of people put through a service, number of learn qualifications at the end or something like that. And we have higher caseloads and less time for that relational work. So this evidence page says we need to continue to prioritize connection. We need to make space for that in services. We can't, like you were saying before, to roll in and go, all right, tell me all your deepest, darkest secrets. People want to connect. They want to feel safe. They want to have a sense of belonging. So this is the kind of thing that I just love to say, let's keep prioritising that.
[00:13:18] Speaker D: If you are working to create the retreat spaces like we're recommending from this study, is working with the young people, not just creating one where the room's free, I guess. Is it in a space where young people can access? Is it a window facing their classroom that they're wanting to get out of? Or is the walk there? Okay, and when can the young people access the space? Is it at lunchtime or is it all times of the day as well? Youth voice and listening to the experts who are the young people and the students that feel these emotions is critical.
[00:13:51] Speaker A: The thing that's really important to note that where we can't change the infrastructure of like a physical building, it is about, you know, maybe schools thinking about the journey and how we make the students feel safe when they're accessing those spaces that they're putting work into, trying.
[00:14:05] Speaker C: To create always those compromises. Right. Like, we're always restricted by the space or the money or whatever.
But my thought and my challenge is always, how far can we push the. That, like, how far can we hand over control and permission to young people to create the space that works for them? I think it's. It's hard, but it's worth keep having that sort of challenge. How far can we push that? Like, how much of that control are we willing to hand over and what difference would that might make?
[00:14:32] Speaker D: Yeah, I guess in the instance of creating the youth retreat spaces, if you're going to put the time, effort and money into doing that, you know, you don't want it to be a space where it's completely unsafe for young people to go because it's just the space that's there and available to be the retreat space.
So it's essential to have that youth input in that process as well. Absolutely. Yeah.
[00:14:55] Speaker A: There's no point in creating it if you haven't had a Conversation about what they need. Right. So bringing them into the conversation is so important and giving them that agency and, and that pride. I think you feel really proud when you're able to contribute to, to something like that and that someone's actually sitting down and listening to you. And, you know, all the amazing things that the Youth forum is, is doing is actually like elevating the voices of young people. I wanted to ask you both from your findings, what do you feel like is needed to combat bullying and loneliness?
[00:15:25] Speaker C: The reality is, is a complex, large issues, but ours are focused on how do we think about space and the social experience in that space. I think there's an opportunity to keep thinking about how do we continue to improve the spaces young people are in, particularly schools, because young people spend so much time in them. And youth centres are another example because they're dedicated space for young people. But I think we also have this instance where young people are kind of not supposed to stay home on their video games all day. But also we don't really want them in public spaces either. And I think that. That we are yet to really discover and understand the impact that that's having on their lives. The There's a social theorist of sorts whose name I think is pronounced Oldenburg and he talks about the different spaces in people's lives, talks about first spaces, second spaces and third spaces. First spaces are your home environment where you are. Second space is often like work or we could think about young people as school. But a third space is the space where you go where you don't have any of those other responsibilities and you have a sense of connection to, to the people who are there and nothing is really required of you. We have some of those spaces in our culture, but it almost like we're getting rid of them. We have faith communities, you know, but, you know, people aren't as religious as they were in the past. We have some public spaces like parks and libraries, but often they kind of get developed or shifted or not invested in as much and put as much money into them. Those third spaces are really important for creating connections. So how do we create spaces for third spaces for people to spend time, build connection? They don't have to spend money, they don't have to, you know, have a lot of other expectations and can we do that in schools? Like that would be really amazing. It's going to be challenging because we've got such a long history of building schools in certain ways and all the things that are there. But given how much time young people spend in These spaces, I think we can keep thinking about how to ways to improve them.
[00:17:23] Speaker D: Yeah, definitely. Building on what Ben's talked about around the third spaces, the experience of starting the forum and meeting on picnic blankets because of the lack of accessible community spaces that open on weekends and accessible for young people to be there, hang out and just be. And I guess in my own experience as well is where, where do you go and you spend $10 for a coffee or a be at a pub just to sit and hang out. And I'm particularly interested around the beach is a really big spot for our young people and myself to hang out and go and connect with our friends and is a free place.
But now with the impact of the algae bloom on the beach and surround is going to be really interesting to look at around summer and where young people go. And we did a regional tour around South Australia earlier this year working with young people across Kangaroo Island, Mount Gambier, Water Range, Port Lincoln and the Riverland.
And what came out really prominent was space and places to connect and just be and also just the lack of public transport to get to places and things to do on the weekends. And you know, a really great example was on Kangaroo island. We had a workshop on a Saturday and we had plenty of young people come and I ask them why they were here and they're like Amber, I don't really care about getting my voice heard. I just came to do something today because I would just be sitting at home alone. And I think that is just testament to young people want to do stuff. And looking at the introduction of the social media ban and the hours young people spend on their phones and you know, getting rid of that. But what are we replacing it with? Are we replacing it with free transport and free community spaces and free events for young people to get together and spend their time or else are we going to have more young people just sitting alone at home and not doing anything on the weekends? Is very scary thought. But yeah, third spaces and I guess research as well and working with young people is really awesome and I guess this is really cool and we're seeing a lot of emerging research and building on existing research around loneliness and young people, which is really great to see.
[00:19:39] Speaker A: That is so great to hear and just really important to think about these third spaces. And like you said with the social media ban, what are we doing for our young young people in that, you know, that time space that they will now have? I wanted to leave you with both with one last question and that is if you could leave our listeners with one thing from our conversation today.
[00:20:00] Speaker D: What would they be? I think listen to your young person and also understand that loneliness and bullying are not an issue of the person, but a more socially structured issue. And to really help your young person understand that, because it's really easy to feel like something's wrong with you if you're feeling lonely or if you're feeling bullied and excluded from school and it's not your fault, that's really important.
[00:20:28] Speaker A: Thank you, Ben.
[00:20:29] Speaker C: I don't think there's a better takeaway than that. I'm really happy with that one.
Listen to your young people, remind them that it's not their fault, and think about the social context. That's fantastic.
[00:20:40] Speaker A: Yeah. Thank you so much for joining me today, both of you. It's been such a pleasure and I'm taking a lot from this conversation as I'm sure our listeners will as well. So thank you so much.
[00:20:50] Speaker C: Thanks for the chat.
[00:20:51] Speaker D: Thank you.
[00:20:57] Speaker B: Thank you to our listeners for joining us for this two part podcast. If you'd like to read the article on the study undertaken by Ben Amber and the South Australian Youth Forum, you can find a link to it in the show notes of this episode.
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